November23
I was talking to my good friend and very successful business woman Dawn Chavanu, and she told me something that until that moment I hadn’t been able to put into words. She said, “Chais, just remember, There is no pride when it comes to Survival”! She is so right.
For a long time my wife and I have told others (friends, family, whoever) that when we were done working at our current jobs, we would never work for someone else again. That is a pretty big blanket statement to make!
We said this because we truly do want to be our own bosses and we don’t enjoy making other people money when we could be doing it for ourselves. Also, I personally hate someone else telling me what to do!
After making a statement like that, I felt like I needed to live up to it no matter what. The “no matter what” part came from my pride. I didn’t want people to say “he said he was never going to work for someone else and now he is working at Walmart “. Thoughts like this are poison for our personal and professional lives. We are telling ourselves that we don’t care how bad things get, we are going to stick to our guns and grunt it out.
The statement that Dawn said hit me so deeply. It made me realize that sometimes we just need to suck it up and bear the shame (as if it would be that bad anyway).
Shawna took a giant step for our marriage and our businesses, by doing something that externally looks like we are digressing rather than improving. She applied at the local hospital for a part time cleaning position. Why is this such a benefit for us? Even though we will be breaking our original promise of never working for someone again, there are tremendous financial advantages for her doing this. As two self employed individuals, insurance is very hard to get and very costly (we are currently paying about $340 a month for basic coverage, no prescription and a $1000 deductible). Through the hospital, Shawna and I will both get full coverage insurance (eye, dental, prescription) for $150 a month. We currently are members of the hospital Gym that we pay $60 a month to work out at. She will now get her membership for free and mine will be $20 a month. All of this for only having to work 20 hours a week, 1 to 5PM 5 days a week!
If we would have stuck to our “no matter what” mindset, we would have completely missed out on this opportunity to better our lives while filling 4 hours a day, 5 days a week with payed work. Which is also relieving extra financial pressures put on our businesses (money we can keep in for growth, rather than take out to ‘survive’). You know what else, She loves cleaning, so it won’t be something she hates doing (when my wife’s happy, I’m happy…most of the time
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Knowing that “there is no pride in survival” and acting on it, has opened us up to hidden opportunities.
Don’t avoid something just because you might have said something different in the past.
Food fills my stomach better than pride!
Thanks for reading and have an awesome day,
~Chais Meyer